I guess when I said fidelity was negotiable, I wasn't trying to say "deep down, everyone wants to cheat anyways, so why bother being monagamous?" and try to excuse cheating. I just meant if some person cheated on me and was truly sorry for it and wanted to come back, and I hadn't moved on and I wanted them back, I'd take them back. Maybe its because I don't know what it feels like to be betrayed like that, but I tend to be very forgiving. But I don't know what I'd do until I actually was in that situation. I mean, you have to take these things on a case by case basis, because in some situations, you prolly are being a sucker if you take them back. I just think its hard to make blanket statements.
And I'd like to think if I was in a relationship with a girl, and I was in love with her, I wouldn't cheat on her. I mean, I think everyone who knows me thinks I'm a decent guy. A little goofy with some screwed up tendencies, but altogether good people. But I don't want to say I'm a saint, lest I be tested.
Oh, and I think if you have kids, you start becoming responsible for more than just yourself. All that stuff I said about being weak, you need to take your vigilance to a whole other level. From what I've seen, stuff like affairs and divorce can really mess with a kid. You have a responsibility to your kids now. You don't like your marriage? Too bad. Perhaps you shouldn't have entered into it so hastily, and you definitely don't leave it once you've had children.
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Date: 2002-06-18 11:20 am (UTC)And I'd like to think if I was in a relationship with a girl, and I was in love with her, I wouldn't cheat on her. I mean, I think everyone who knows me thinks I'm a decent guy. A little goofy with some screwed up tendencies, but altogether good people. But I don't want to say I'm a saint, lest I be tested.
Oh, and I think if you have kids, you start becoming responsible for more than just yourself. All that stuff I said about being weak, you need to take your vigilance to a whole other level. From what I've seen, stuff like affairs and divorce can really mess with a kid. You have a responsibility to your kids now. You don't like your marriage? Too bad. Perhaps you shouldn't have entered into it so hastily, and you definitely don't leave it once you've had children.